You mean it's not about my happiness?

Daniel J. Phillips serves up some iconoclastic ideas on marriage and divorce over at biblical christianity. Daniel draws on both his own thoughts and Bob Just's Son of Divorce. Here's a sample:

If your mindset is that marriage is all about making and keeping you feeling happy, without cost, you are likely to be shocked, horrified, and appalled to learn that it simply is not so. You will be unprepared. You will be undone. You will bolt for the door our culture so obligingly holds open for you.

If on the other hand you view your marriage as you and I should view everything else in this fallen world, as something undertaken before God, and as long as we expect that it will have its share of crosses -- and as long as we accept that we need those crosses -- we can and will find happiness in our marriages.

It's strong stuff, but well worth a read.