What spirituality is not

It's good to see a minister expressing these sentiments. Ministry is a lot more than being nice, and love doesn't allowing someone to walk over and abuse you:

Sometimes love means saying "no." Love can mean being firm. Love can mean doing what you believe to be in the best interest of that person even if that person doesn’t appreciate what you are doing. Love can mean confronting. Love can mean speaking the truth in love.

Amen.